Posts Tagged ‘sex ed’

I <3 Sex Ed

Wednesday, May 6th, 2009

I’m half way through my SFSI (San Francisco Sex Information) training and I absolutely love it. They’ve been doing it for a really long time (decades) and they’ve got their shit down. The days are 8 hours long, but they don’t seem like 8 hours because they’ve structured the day so well that each one just flies by.

They have training twice a year and hold an orientation/interviews for prospective students. I knew what it would entail, but when I got there I was actually much more nervous than I thought I would be. I think there were about 60-65 people who wanted to attend and about 25-30 got chosen. I’m not entirely sure why I got picked but am pleased as hell. Most of my classmates are either working in the field doing therapy, teaching, counseling, or are in school getting undergraduate or graduate degrees. I think (IIRC from our introductory class) there are a couple of other people like me in the class — we work regular, non-sex or education related jobs and are just personally interested in the information and want to do volunteer work.

I’m doing it because I’m fascinated by sex and want to help educate people about it and really want to volunteer answering questions from people that contact SFSI. But I’ve also learned a lot from it. Before I would have said that I was fairly open minded and comfortable talking about sex, but even with what I consider my “open minded-ness”, I’ve realized how many pre-conceived notions I’ve had or how much mis-information I’ve gathered and relied upon over the years.

Their non-judgmental communication style is not just good for giving out unbiased sex information, but it’s good for general communication as well. So is the ability to really listen to what someone is saying and getting what that person needs, not assuming what they need. I can’t say enough good things about this class and am thrilled that I’m taking it. I can’t wait to man the switchboard and take questions. I think it’ll be really educational, but it’ll also feel good to help empower people with information.

Sex ed

Tuesday, June 15th, 2004

I was just talking to my son and he said he started sex education last Friday. Sex education! What did you guys talk about? We just started with the book — we talked about puberty. Growing hair and stuff. Next week the boys and girls are going to be separated for lessons. Has your father talked to you about sex? No. Do you want him to talk to you about it? Uhhhhh….I don’t know. Do you want me to talk to you about it? Uhhhhh….I don’t know. Well, why don’t we talk about it the next time I come visit you.

Gosh, he’s so old — I was telling someone at work today, hey, you’re twice my son’s age! My co-worker was born in ‘81. 1981! I don’t normally hang out with people who’s birth years are in the ’80’s. But I’m sure there’s plenty of them in my group.

It feels weird to be thinking about talking about sex with my son. A friend of mine emailed me and said how much he appreciated having his mother talk to him about sex when he was young. And how much easier it was to talk to her about it than his father. I thought Josh might be more comfortable having his father talk to him about it, and figured I’d let him know I was available for any questions, but my friend’s email made me realize I should just talk to him — if he’s uncomfortable, he’ll let me know and we’ll talk about something else. But I like that the fact that my 11 year old can be mature and comfortable with adult subjects. And I like to think I had something to do with that.

Current state of sex continued

Sunday, May 30th, 2004

That article from last night reminded me that my son is soon to be in the 6th grade. Sixth grade — then it’s junior high school and that’s just a couple of years from high school. I had a dream the other night he was a head taller than me. He’s getting old and his sister and cousins are already in their teens. And I wonder if they talk about sex so openly and explicitly. Sometimes I worry that my son will have questions, but not ask. His family is communicative and open and even though we tell him all the time he can pose any questions he may have, he seems a private and reserved person.

The only sex education I got was from health class, but it didn’t leave much of an impression on me. And my parents never spoke of sex, though I was constantly told I was not to masturbate because it was really evil and god would punish me (though, ironically, I was not told to not have sex). I didn’t have any ideals about sex, and no real sense of what it was and wasn’t, and I desperately don’t want my son to feel that way. I want him to be informed. I don’t want him to have sex. Ever. But that’s not very realistic. I don’t want to talk about sex explicitly with him (for god’s sake, he’s only 11!), but I don’t want him to feel like we didn’t talk to him about it at all. Every now and again, I’ll bug his father — “have you had the talk with him?”, “you know, you should really do it soon.” I think it’d embarass him if I broach the subject. Better if it comes from the dad. And easier on me.

Current state of sex

Saturday, May 29th, 2004

There’s an interesting article about the explicit nature of current discussions of sex by young people.